Music Ear Porn

Justin wanted to share how music = stimming and what it means to him.  How many of you can relate??

 

Music has gotten me through more things in my life than a counselor ever could.  I learned that music has been a stim for me just recently, without even trying or meaning to.  All through high school, if you saw me, 99.999% of the time I had headphones on and a CD player in my hoodie pocket (PS, It’s Washington, everyone wears a hoodie!).   The only time I really didn’t have headphones on it was class or if I was hanging out with my best friend Daniel.

My favorite genre of music is rock/metal, but I’ll listen to pretty much every genre there really is.   I listen to Britney Spears, Slipknot, Lamb of God, then suddenly switch over to opera (yes, opera) or rap.  I grew up listening to oldies on the radio with my parents, and any time we went anywhere they would turn on the oldies.

Describing me and music is hard cause I love it, in fact I live for music, but I couldn’t  sing you one bit of lyrics.  I know the lyrics–I research what they mean and what the artist meant by them, but I could literally memorize them and the second the song comes on–lyrics gone.  I have no idea what they’re going to sing.  I think that’s part of autism, but man, it sucks!  I always tell my wife that I’m jealous because she can remember the lyrics to songs she’s heard once (jerk lol!).  But I’ll listen to one song maybe 100 times in a week and not be able to tell you one lyric.  I also get beats of songs stuck in my head, which is equally annoying.  I don’t know the beat to anything (and God help you if you need CPR, because I couldn’t remember the beat to Staying Alive if you paid me).  This also means I have zero rhythm.  I realize I’m a white guy, so it’s okay, but I can’t even remember the song I just listened to or its rhythm.  I’ve also been known to listen to a song and get one little second stuck in my head– like the way a singer will enunciate a word or sentence, so I’ll rewind and listen to literally like a second or listen to it 15 or 20 times.  It’s kind of strange, but I think that’s part of the stimming of music.

If I’m having a particularly annoying Aspie day (as my wife calls them), I will blast music–usually rock, and it helps me calm down or relax a little so I’m not as wound up.  Up until recently I didn’t even know what stimming was, and music helps so much more than I could ever think it would.

–Justin

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What do you guys think?  Music has helped me a lot too, but I can only imagine the ways it helps my Aspie husband.  Do you stim with music?  Leave me a comment!

–Tara